Throughout my many years of coaching men and women, I have found that the BIGGEST cause of BPD relationship failure is when the non-BPD fails to establish boundaries early on.And by boundaries I mean For women, there’s just nothing more attractive than a man that knows what he wants, isn’t afraid to call you out, challenges you instead of chasing you, values himself and yet still has that genuine love for you. For men, while we do tend to focus more on beauty, the killer combo is a woman that’s beautiful has brains.I know it doesn’t seem like it now, but did you know I used to be this insecure, codependent, small-minded, passive man?It’s why I consistently ended up with toxic women in all of my early relationships.
Don’t be so quick to jump into nothing will ever help you succeed in dating someone with Borderline Personality Disorder.
You’ll just continue to experience the same behavior that’s crushed your happiness.
While you’re here reading this article, I do hope you’ll listen closely to this piece of advice: for yourself when you’re spending all of your time trying to make things right in the relationship instead of focusing on your own goals, dreams, desires and more.
He thought he was doing the right thing because he was non reactive and she would calm down.
However, this is important to show that you respect yourself, that you don’t like being yelled at, that you aren’t afraid to get up in her space and basically radiate your masculinity all over her.
Dating someone with BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) is not an impossible task despite what you often read about on the internet.